I used to have a mentor where we set up goals and parameters and he would discipline me when I didn't do what I was supposed to. He moved away and advised me that I needed to find another disciplinarian. I told him I didn't. He said some guys continue to need a firm handed man in their life. But I'm in my 50s. I thought I could do it alone. I have backslid a little. I contacted him and he instructed me to post an ad with a photo and see if I could find someone to discipline me again. I decided to follow his advice.